The Great Deceiver of Joy
What percentage of your life energy is committed to fear or anger at another person or situation that causes you to feel helpless? Eighteen present is the typical answer! How much of your energy is allocated to envy or resentment? Twelve is the average number. How much energy is expended in your efforts to fit in or be accepted by a partner, friend or co-workers? Eight percent is the average number. All the other things like worry and everyday stresses fall into the two percent range.
Why does it even matter; why spend valuable time determining where your energy is committed? Your physical body, the container that encompasses all that is you in this lifetime is capable of holding 100 percent of your life energy. This includes all the possibilities and probabilities of who you can become and what you are capable of achieving. If being average is good with you, it may not matter. You can simply go along to get along and coast through life, taking detours at will and attracting drama for entertainment. If you expect far more, this is important.
Whatever your personal percentages are, you are committing that percentage of your best efforts to things that can never help you be the best you can become. Your efforts to hold onto painful memories and seek revenge behave like an infection in the physical body. It drains your physical energy and redirects all your creativity to ideas intended to repay those who have hurt you. It only makes you sicker and sicker until your own hopes and dreams are buried under the debris of your life plans. Feeling guilty has the same effect on the human body. There are no winners, but you are the loser.
When you are caught in these emotional traps you are far better served to treat your life energy like a budget. Look closely at the numbers and the costs of every emotional drain. Make a clear and conscious decision about the benefits and the costs before you commit any of your personal energy to a cause that cannot benefit you. Then take the time to empty your life of all the negative things you do have control of; dump them; never again allow them to command your life or your potential.
You are the only captain on board; the decision about how you command your ship is reflected in your choices. You become the great deceiver of your life when you ignore the costs and continue on a course that can never take you to your highest and best good.