Just Sex - The Expressway Past Your Heart

 

Do you prefer to just keep things light; is no emotional attachment your creed? Or maybe you're a confirmed cougar; a little older but open to the benefits of a little younger with no strings on your heart? If you have chosen casual sex as an alternative to a long and rewarding emotional relationship, you have hopped on the expressway past your heart to sexual gratification without affection. Is it really just a safe fast lane or much more?

Humans are born with emotion. The birth of our emotions occurred just seconds after our first breath of life. Emotions sprung to life the moment our senses began functioning. All of our emotions are born through our senses. You may imagine that you are an unemotional creature, but you are only kidding yourself. If any of your senses are functioning, you are alive and emotional.

Why would a creature as emotionally charged as the human being elect to bypass a passionate, committed involvement for casual and uncommitted sex with another person? Avoiding intimacy - this is the primary reason given for traveling in the express lane for sex. What's behind that desire? Too many things to list, but here are a few of the most cited reasons: a lack of time to commit to a real relationship, fear of being hurt again, low self-esteem, emotional roadblocks that prevent bonding with another person; the list is endless. You surely have had this discussion already. But is there any danger in making this choice?

What if you look beyond the obvious of two people, in the flesh, who come together for a short time and then part? Delving into what is happening in our innate, the energy that surrounds everyone provides a much clearer picture of what happens when two energies collide through close, intimate contact. One of the people may desire a quick sexual union; their innate seeks to deliver precisely the result they are seeking. The other may be using the opportunity in the hopes of building a lasting relationship; their innate is seeking, with equal intensity, to bring their hopes and dreams to fruition. There is indeed a collision of energy when two peoples energy are bound so closely in a sexual union.

The sub conscious now awakens, never understanding the meaning of "I'm just kidding." It literally accepts what you say and do as your desire and immediately begins to reinforce what it has interpreted into your reality. There is no closer bond for humans than the physical act of melding into one in a sexual union. The sub conscious mind now accepts that this union is the yearning to be fulfilled.

Just walk away and forget it happened, it was nothing? Even if it was only minutes long, every deeply emotional event in our lives leaves a memory imprint. If either of the people involved in the union has a different perception of the desired outcome, their energy will make every effort to attach and fulfill their desire. You may never even be aware that this has happened. You now have an emotional hook into your energy field. It becomes a sticky attachment that frequently becomes a long and complicated challenge to disentangle from. This can result in a constant negative pull on your energy.

Your desire to control the level of intimacy in your life with a fast, unemotional sexual encounter leaves you open to that challenge from people you frequently know little or nothing about. You have lost the protection of being discerning about the person you are intimately involved with and who they really are. There is no guard at the gate of your energy field when you choose to do this. The more times you take the risk, the greater the opportunity you will be entangled by someone's emotional hook.

If you still think that going down the expressway is the best way, that it was casual fun just to love someone for a minute, think about what you are endangering. You may have just met someone who intends to be caught up in your life, to be showered with your love and affection. It is their personal intent of loving you forever that signals the challenge is at hand; you may never even know the message was delivered through their own innate.