Mastering the Art of Winning

Are you the leader in your family, with your friends or at work; are you the 'go to' person that people seek out to find solutions? Do you wish you were? What is the difference between leaders and followers? The winning attribute every leader has is the ability to lift others up; they are never afraid that doing so will make them less. What about winners and losers, how are they different; winners bring solutions, losers bring excuses.

The stand-up, stand-out people in our lives have embraced the concept of focusing clearly on their goals but are never oblivious to opportunities along the road to their own success. They see stumbling blocks as stepping stones, understanding that each one is an opportunity to learn something they may need to know later. It is this very quality that enables them to offer solutions to issues when they have no real reason to know the answer; they are always gathering information that may help someone.

Leaders have learned that the best way to move up at work is by replacing themselves; by training others and offering to help those who are making an effort to reach higher. The very fear of someone taking anything away from you relegates you to the position of a follower. There are two categories on the road that rises to the top; fearless and fearful. If fear shapes your perception of life, plan on staying in the follower's line.

The winners' creed is 'If I can lift someone else up then I too am lifted to a higher place.' What does all this mean to you? It means that it is your outlook on life, the lens of perception that you peer though each day, not whether you are more educated, better looking or luckier than someone else that determines the position you will hold in the eyes of those around you.

You assume the position of a leader and a winner by altering your perception of every situation in life. Becoming fearless about losing anything to someone else and willing to make note of what is right rather than wrong about people and situations allows you to see through the eyes of a leader. When you change, everything around you changes.

Life exists in a push-pull magnetic field. You are either projecting energy forward that contains uplifting and caring ideas or absorbing negativity from others when you enter any space or situation. Winners understand energy and use it to their greatest benefit; they take care to project good thoughts, ideas and images forward rather than absorbing bad things into their own energy field.

The best leaders are magnetic masters; they are always pushing good ideas into potentially bad places or ideas. All of this is happening silently, they have mastered controlling energy. It begins with altering your perception and continues with projecting energy by focusing on the anticipated outcome.