Where Did You Go?

 Accepting and letting go of someone you love is the difficult challenge that lies in the death of a loved one. How is it possible that one who is so alive with so much to share could so suddenly leave, forever? Where did you go, we wonder; are you afraid, are you lonely or hurting? We feel so helpless, believing there is no way to reach out and hold their hand or comfort them on this solo journey. Do they wish they were here, do they miss us; do they know our heart is broken or how much we loved them?

This is the great divide in life, one that feels unbearable to many. We can't see what's beyond life as we know it, we can only wonder and search for something to hold onto. Once you experience this kind of loss you know there is something more, something beyond the big blue sky we stare at as we wonder where and why. You simply know this was not all for nothing; somewhere out there the one you love lives on, somehow.

That sense of knowing is one of the many ways we maintain contact with our loved one after they're gone. Visits during dream time may be the most recognized way we reach out and touch; mainly because our resistance is down while we are asleep. We may even feel their touch or hear them whisper something that we know came from them. Songs that suddenly come to mind particularly when a single line or verse replays is yet another way we touch. The message they want to convey is in those words. They're not really gone, they just left the vessel they were using to journey through life.

Were they afraid when they left us? Death to the physical body is a change of consciousness, the kind we experience when we wake up from a dream. They are waking up to a new and vastly expanded consciousness. There is no fear, no pain. This transformation allows the one who has died to see with crystal clear vision, to know all of the facts about events in their lifetime. Perception is replaced with clarity. There is a letting go process that may take longer for those who died abruptly; they may stay close until loose ends are tied up. You may feel them; feel their presence close to you, somewhat like companion energy. There is a benevolent guidance being offered that helps us clear the way and begin living again.

When the process is complete we all choose to complete the transformation of being totally rejoined with the creative consciousness we know as God. Even though we were never really separated, our birth into a physical body necessitated a different consciousness or awareness.

Our loved one is not lonely or scared; but they are aware that we are. They don't miss us because they are readily beside us. When you begin to wonder, be still and you will know.